Tips to deal with preschoolers separation anxiety

When my 1 year 10 month old baby began with his playway school little did I know that my worst nightmare will take shape then and there. My all so gullible, socially extrovert son soon turned into a mumas boy. He refused to let me drop him off without the customary clinking and crying. And this all just didn’t end here,he also stopped letting me leave him to use natures call or even go to the kitchem alone.I ended up feeling like a monster for sending him off to school. But,after putting a sane thought to it I realised that not that if I send him few months later he’ll be super excited. Hence I tried and tested the waters and eventually after a month he finally ran away to his school all smiling( I day I actually thought I won’t live to see). Mums do exaggerate ,don’t they (wink wink)

1. Stick to your decision

Moms, this is the worst time to go weak in your knees. But remember you are setting a really important lesson for your child,ie to deal with the world and situations and not be a quiter. Kids are more intelligent and sensitive to our decision than we realise,so if you have decided to make your child do something and gone ahead with it,don’t step back.

2. Be strong

Not just a brave face ladies, but a brave heart as well. Remember there are scientific researches to back up the fact that kids are directly affected by their mothers emotions. If you are anxious ,nervous and don’t trust the school and teachers to take care of your little one ,they won’t too. 

3. Never compare

No matter how trivial it sounds right now your children do have a high enough IQ to understand when you say,’have you seen XYZ ,they go to school so happily, why do you have to make my mornings miserable’. Remember how it felt when we were compared, just imagine on one side ur kid is sad about leaving you,and the flip side, you are the one emotionally bashing him to love you so much. Not fair.

4. Ask someone else to share the responsibility

This works well,you can ask your husband or mother-in-law,or. Anyone you trust to drop off your child, at times it becomes particularly tough for kids to see there moms leave them. They might actually be enjoying the school but just letting go of there mommy makes it difficult for them. So no harm asking for some help.

5. Talk positively about school

Begin by getting picture books about school and friends, let the kid know how much fun it is to go to school,engage in so many activities ,make new friends. Share stories from your school life and talk about the friends you’ve made for life. In my case me and my husband were school mates… 

Hope these work for you my friends ,as I totally understand there is nothing worst for a mother than a sad clingy baby. And remember,never blame your self. Because you definitely want the best for your child. And this is his first big step in the real world. 


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